Tools > Scripting > Batch Render
Vegas pro has batch render, just look up how to use it
the MP4 files you creating are similar to the original MTS files your camera creeates. They are both H.264 and VERY hard on your CPU.
You had it right when you were creating HDV m2t proxies, you just need to figure out a workflow so that when your ready for final output you can switch back to the original AVCHD files
google and youtube have plenty of tutorials on these things