Hi Michael,
The problem here is that you are using the “reconform from folders” option. When you do this Resolve loses the history of your previous conflict selections, etc.
Can you explain why you are using this function? Are you adding new folders in the media pool?
If you are just adding a new VFX shot, it should not affect anything, and you will just get it as one of the conflict options.
I don’t think this has anything to do with the “Force Conform” function as far as I can tell.
Regards,
Rohit