from the default workspace:
1) Click on your menu from the projects tabs and then on the far right, make sure the Basic tab selected from the properties window. (if this does not show up, click on the menu again.
2) uncheck “Automatically Route Buttons” towards the bottom of that tab window.
From there, I followed the instructions from: https://help.adobe.com/en_US/EncoreDVD/4.0/WS74BC1059-66C3-46c5-9FA6-78DF10B38353.html (second to last item) (titled: Changing the routing order)
To pull up the arrows… there is a small little icon right under the middle (the folow chart, menu preview, etc) window, the small icons start with a “Fit” drop down box… in that line, its the 4th icon called “Show button routing) and that will show the arrows, and then from there, you can simply drag the number to the item you want to goto next.
Hope this helps…
If you still have trouble, please let me know, and ill see if I can post some pictures or something.
Thanks!