Hi Andreas,
The reason your P2 footage shows as 1280×1080 is because that is the real resolution of the image. Panasonic squeezes the image horizontally to save space, and then FCP and other apps stretch it out to the correct 16×9 aspect. The reason this does not happen in your XDCAM EX footage is because EX is shot at real 1920×1080. However, if you were shooting older XDCAM HD, that’s actually shot in 1440×1080 🙂
If you want to read more about how this all works, check out Wikipedia’s article on pixel aspect ratio at https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pixel_aspect_ratio
As far as your timeline preset goes, I would recommend you set it to DVCPRO HD 1080i, as long as you have the disk space to store it. Since you’re working with two mismatching formats, FCP will *always* need to render either one or the other. In this case, that means the XDCAM EX footage will be rendered to DVCPRO HD.
-Michael