So I think I may have solved my issue. I noticed my clip info was showing my proxies as online, but the original media was not available (little red triangle). When I clicked the “locate in finder” next to the media available it was pathed to a folder above the actual folder the media was living in. These are sony slog clips and there are 3 subfolders, one of which contains the media and meta data, and it was pointing to the folder above the media/meta data folder.
When I originally imported these, I did not select individual clips, but rather the 6 parent folders that housed my media. I think this is where things when wrong, since FCP was skipping some folders to get to my media, thus leaving it offline when I opened fcp.
So I did a few test re-imports by selecting the actual media files, not folders, and instead of keeping files in place I chose to copy files to library (my media and library all live on the same external, someone tell me if this is bad practice) . Now when I close the application and reopen those clips are online, and it says I have original, optimized and proxy media available.