Zach-
Allow me to try to offer some basics and give you a little more direction.
1) Very few things in either film, video or, for that matter audio recording in general are recorded in stereo. Almost always individual sources/people/etc. are mic’d (or sometimes double mic’d to be able to choose the best sounding of the two) and either in a mixer going to the camera, or later in post production, are the individual tracks assigned to a space in the stereo spread via the pan function. The exception to this would be the attempt to capture an “environment,” be it orchestra, waterfall, crowd scene, whatever where a pair of mics are used a specific kind of arrangement and one is assigned to the left channel and the other to the right. This captures actual stereo, but as stated above that’s seldom done.
2) Some camcorder-mounted mics are stereo and, if they are professional “balanced” mics (see below) they will have 5 pins. Camera-mounted mics really aren’t of much use except for news (my opinion).
3) XLR connectors with 4 pins are for power, ie.- a line going from a power supply that converts 110volt a/c (US) or 220volt a/c (Europe and much of the world) to 12 volt d/c so the camera can be operated without batteries.
4) There’s more than stereo these days. Mixes are routinely done these days in 5.1 and 7.1 surround sound on high end projects like feature films, whether for the theatre or DVD/Blu-Ray. Certainly more complex than simple left-right stereo as it is assigning sounds in a 360 degree space around the listener.
5) Mics have three pins when they are “balanced.” A professional, balanced audio line is able to go much further distances because one wire “shields” the other two which are in opposite phase of each other. Don’t ask, you probably don’t want to know anyway. Suffice it to say, a line is balanced to prevent hum and other interference caused by power lines, radio transmissions, etc.
For better, more comprehensive answers you should post this question on the Audio Professionals COW forum, because this is the best info you can get from me.