thank you David, Michael for your input.
its good to hear from other experts that its not possible as of yet, then i can focus on coming up with workaround or requesting : )
i totally understand that it is difference between node based vs layer based.
regarding keyframes, you guys are right, as keyframes directly control the parameters… hmm i guess i will have to think this through.
well anyway, for a quick fix + workaround, i was hoping [presets] could bridge the gap.
like forexample, i apply a curve effect, change parameters, save to preset. then on other curve effects, i apply the [preset], then the second curve effect remembers what preset its “linked” to, then when the preset is modified, it updates it self to the preset.
however, currecntly presets are one off thing which just overrides the parameters, but do not retain the relationship.
maybye really easy way around this is to implement some kind of [sticky preset], where when preset is modified, the effects update them selves. easy fix really (for simplicity, keyframe has to be instanced as well)
anyway, thank you all for your input, as i said, just learning that AE does not have built in instancing alone was very beneficial!