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Are vendors allowed to say “you’re welcome”?
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“Just what do you MEAN by “thank-You!?!?!”
Go ahead, say that to my face once more! 🙂
I’m raising young teens at home right now and every day is a struggle to try and ingrain these conditioned responses in them, so they will someday stand apart from and above their uncouth peers and competitors in life. Certainly I’m no etiquette expert but so far I haev them mostly waiting and opening and holding doors for women or others older than them at church or the store or the like. It really feels like a dying art sometimes.
We’re meeting the inlaws at a restaurant, and I and my boys stand up when Grandma arrives at the table, and we wait for her to be seated before we sit back down. Even grandma is like: “What are you all standing up for, you going someplace?”
“We’re standing for YOU“. My kid points out.
Grandma is flabberghasted that chivalry is still somewhat alive. Especially from her son-in-law’s side:-) We just grin. I’m grinning because I can see, from the corners of my vision, the folks at the tables nearby seeing this and marveling, turning to wach other and going:”why don’t OUR kids have manners like that? What’s the trick?”.
I say to myself: “because you have to WORK at it.”
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let’s open another bottle of worms (yes, I have tequila on my mind). Don’t you hate when you tell someone ‘thank you’ and they say ‘no problem’? That drives me nuts. It’s as if they’re inferring, “You’re lucky….it’s no problem this time, but it could have been a problem, etc.”
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You guys have too much time on your hands if stuff like this is really a concern. Or is it just a slow summer day?
I’m in the thanking them back camp but really don’t mind if someone says “you’re welcome.”
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I agree with Nick. I actually thought that this was a “joke” thread.
I am the rudest, most inconsiderate, disrespectful person on Creative Cow, and when someone hands me a check AND says “thank you” – you bet your behind that I say “YOU ARE WELCOME”. And I also say “and if anything goes wrong, make sure to call me right away” (because I can’t wait to give you another bill).Bob Zelin
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[Bob Zelin] “And I also say “and if anything goes wrong, make sure to call me right away” (because I can’t wait to give you another bill).”
Bob, don’t forget the Golden Word: “Please…I can’t wait to give you another bill, please.”
😉
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“My father thanks you, my Mother thanks you, I thank you…
… and my 30-year-old boat thanks you, please come back soon.”
“Oh, you wanted to RECORD that?”
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Okay Nick and Bob Z, I get your points about this thread, but I couldn’t resist when I saw Dino’s post.
[Dino Vince] “Don’t you hate when you tell someone ‘thank you’ and they say ‘no problem’?”
You’ve hit on one of my pet peeves. I agree with you, Dino. (btw, we’re not alone; Garrison Keillor wrote a funny bit on this for one of his Prairie Home Companion shows.)
I really hate it when a waiter/waitress says it. “No problem” implies, “Yes, bringing you this plate COULD have been a problem, but as your waiter I’ll forgive you for this incredible lack of consideration on your part, just this once.”
I think in Spain there’s a similar but better phrase: “de nada,” meaning, “It was nothing; don’t mention it.” I still prefer a pleasant “You’re welcome,” or “My pleasure.”
Steve, while I can’t share your ire about people who say “you’re welcome,” I guess you’re entitled to your pet peeve — just don’t reply, “No problem.”
Bob C
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Wow…where I live, if someone just responds to me thanking them I’m usually impressed. None of the responses people list as peeves would bother me in the least. Most people don’t even think about what they’re saying and whatever they spout out has been ingrained in them since they were kids.
I truly don’t think anyone responds with “you’re welcome” or “no problem” or even with a “thank you” in response to your “thank you” to imply much of anything other than an attempt to be polite. I’d have to be having a pretty shitty day to let that get under my skin!
Like Bob…when clients hand me a 5 figure check…they can put me in ceremonial garb, spank me with a paddle and make me say “Thank you sir may I have another!” if that’s what they want to hear.
I think it’s perfectly A-Ok for a vendor to tell you “you’re welcome” if you thank them for the work they’ve done. I rarely thank a vendor…but when one does a particularly good job and goes above and beyond what their fee dictates, I often send them words of thanks…and I often talk them up in forums and in conversations with colleagues as a show of appreciation. Good service, good people and good companies are in short supply. They deserve to succeed and I don’t mind helping them along if they’ve gone out of their way to do right by me.
Chris Blair
Magnetic Image, Inc.
Evansville, IN
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Dear Abby,
A client of mine recently said “thank you”. I was paralyzed with fear because I recently read online that it could be insulting to say “you’re welcome”. Is this true? Now I’m afraid that soon someone will utter those two dreaded words again. What should I say? What should I do? Please help before it’s too late!
Signed: “Grateful” in So Cal.
Mark
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Hey Steve,
I have found that some people say “You’re welcome” to deal with anxiety. Some say it while trying to pack up as quickly as possible (and try their best to save me money), Some say it because they haven’t figured me out since it’s the first time we’ve worked together. And some say it because if they didn’t, their parents would beat them silly no matter how old they are.
If they did a great job, fagetta ’bout it. If their work speaks louder than their words, hire them again:)
Just my thoughts…
BruceBruce Bennett
Bennett Marketing & Media Production, LLC
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